Wedding cake in the middle of the road

If this ever happened to me...I would crawl into my naval and die, seriously (LOL).

Being in engaged is wonderful, things seem all so flowery and blissful...until wedding plans begin, tempers flare, and we disagree on arrangements and argue over petty issues. In wedding “world” 6 months goes by very quickly, and surprisingly I agree. Our date has been set for 28 January, which technically leaves 6 months left (hides).

The wedding cake, now weirdly, I kid you not, was the first thing that we ticked off on the “to do” wedding list. It is an orange cake (orange in flavour, not in colour), draped in icing with flowers as decorations, leading in tiers with miniature cupcakes of the cake on the top...my description is an injustice to it though, I apologize.

Be that as it may, picture this cake, being put onto the car of our caterers, which was ticked off second might I add, driving to the venue and falling off the car – into the middle of the road = Bridal Disaster, I tell ya!

The only thing that every bride wants is for her day to be perfect, after all it is the fairy tale day that she has been dreaming of all her life!

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Of course it is a bad idea to lie to yourself, to convince yourself, to make yourself believe something that isn’t true? Why make yourself believe something that isn’t true, only to set yourself up for disappoint. There is nothing worse than setting high expectations of something only to be disappointed...

Are we victims to our own sub-conscious controlling our lives? Of course we are, we allow our minds to run free with our souls.

We do something wrong, then convince ourselves that we never committed it in the first place, or that what we committed cannot be that bad, or the excuse we find ourselves using far too often, “it will never happen again”...

I always tell myself to expect the unexpected in most situations, but lying to yourself would honestly cause more damage than the trust. As they say the truth only hurts once. If we our honest with ourselves from the get-go, we wouldn’t have to put in unfamiliar predicaments.

Don’t lie to yourself in any way, relationships, work, everyday life, if there is one person in this world you should be honest too, it’s you!

“Honesty is the best policy”

I’m wandering...

Not all who wander are lost...Not all that is gold glitters...

Is the above true? I think so yes! I’ll start with the latter...

We saw a gold glitzy ball, particularly in the club, and we think “Dam, tonight’s going to be a good night”. We see a gold pair of shoes and naturally we think “I’m going to look super hot in that”. We walk into our places of work and everything seems so shiny, but you think “Is my job really this glittery and glamorous”?

I sometimes sit and think what am I going to do . . . so I wander (or my mind wanders), does this mean am I lost? Or does it simply mean I am seeking answers?

There are many times in our lives when we just need to slow down a bit and take in our surroundings. We need not take our situations for granted, we need just to appreciate. I came across an interesting saying the other day, “The first half of our lives we spend wishing time would hurry up as life simply moves too slowly for us. The second half, however, we wish time would slow down. Time is valuable, make it count”.

The sound of one hand clapping

Surely that depends on what your hand is clapping, right? Is it clapping the ground, a container, your face?

No, the sound of one hand clapping is – SILENCE. The silence that you experience, the silence in your life.

Our hands are powerful elements in our lives. We use them to show both excitement and anger. We use our hands to show affection, when someone gets hurt we pick them up, we rub their faces, with our hands. When we are angry, we lash out using our hands. Who would have thought that our hands meant so much?

When we love we use our hands as a sign of showing it, when you hold your loved one’s hands, you connect, you connect two beings. When we are cold, we rub our hands together to create a sense of feeling, a sense of warmth.

However, when there is nobody to connect with, the hand is not heard by any, there is silence and the hand connects with nothing.

The sound of silence is deadly – there is no feeling, no emotion, there is nothing. With silence comes loneliness, darkness and sadness, nobody wants to be alone.

He Aint Heavy...His My Brother....

Like the band, The Script says: Love is – in the eyes of a mother as she takes the force of the blow, it’s in the hands of a father as he works his fingers to the bone...

The love a mother & father have for their children is indescribable.....

The look of hurt in their eyes, when they see their child hurt, hurt they couldn’t stop, hurt they couldn’t prevent, hurt that occurred when their hands were tired...that kind of hurt. Hurt knowing that there was nothing you could do to prevent your child from getting hurt; that is the hurt only a parent can feel.

 To see your child hurting, helpless, needing your care is a feeling no parent wants to come across. Sadly, it happens. Your child gets hurt, and what’s the best you can do for him, show him you love him, you care and that you are there for him!

Physical hurt, emotional hurt, hurt that only a parent can repair...hurt that the person who incurred the damage, didn’t think for a split second about. Hurt that he thought wouldn’t be this bad...that the damages to a move he made, wouldn’t be this severe. Damage now, that will take months, maybe even years to repair, because someone wasn’t thinking straight....

My motto from here on out: Always be kind, be blessed, donate love & laughter...everything we do carries a consequence...Think before you do....ANYTHING, THAT CAN HARM THE NEXT!

Not all who wander are lost

I’m not lost...I am on a quest, a quest to achieve my goals. Wandering without a purpose should be a sin, don’t you think?

This quote though reminds me of another quote - from the rocket scientist Werner Von Braun: "Research is what I am doing when I don't know what I am doing"…. So true….Research...makes me think of Research Methodology (no disrespect)…Eeekkks!!!

I know what I want, I know where I want to be, and I know that If I work hard at it..I’ll eventually get to where I want to be (that I am sure is a rap). Working hard doesn’t come easy, its hard work…wait that didn’t sound right…Its tough! One has to know exactly what you want, before setting goals for yourself. There are many times when I sit and wander if this is what I want? If this is where I am meant to be?

Most of the time, in fact all of the time, people wander for a reason…I believe that if they didn’t, they wouldn’t learn or come across many of life’s challenges. Isn’t that what shapes us as individuals, the challenges we face on our journeys?

Sometimes, it’s not how far the journey, all you got to do, is make sure you wearing the right shoes!

How do step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

How do you step to a 100-foot pole...you take a giant leap, how else do you expect to get to the top?!?!

This topic relates directly to the Public Relations industry or should I say any industry. Let’s just say this topic relates to anybody wanting to get ahead in the working world.

When I just graduated and landed my first-job/internship, I couldn’t wait to get to the top, you know? It seems so flowery and powerful, like you just can’t wait! You think to yourself, “one day when I’m boss”.....

What we don’t know then, unfortunately, is that it’s not all flowery up there, it might be powerful but it’s not flowery, it’s scary, cold, dark, and alone hahahaha...just kidding!

What we need to remember is that hard work pays off, and hard work will get you to the top, and once you get there, you need to maintain yourself and your standards in order to stay there. It’s like losing weight, your fight only really begins when you need to maintain that weight!

So, how do you step, you tread carefully, you step as though you a rose amongst the thorns, you take risks, but calculated risks, you smile but you don’t laugh, and most of all, you maintain your composure!